MY NEIGBOUR WAS NOT AWARE

       Been away for a while., trust me it wasn't my making. Lemme quickly drop this before I disappear into the thin air again. 
So,  yesterday just as I sat humming a song and washing a few clothes. A conversation began between my neighbour  and I, it was quite interesting at first as we discussed feminism,  gender equality and the role of a woman in the home. I never knew this my neighbour was among the folks who paraded themselves as men,electing that a woman position in the home was synonymous to that of nanny. Shocking!  I tell you but that's a topic for another day. So leggo.

It was magical how this friendly conversation turned sour. Just a few more words he uttered stinged me like a bee. Ouch!!

LETTER TO MY DAD.

    DAD,            

         I could start this letter out by thanking you for the multiple things such as the roof over my head or the food you place on the table but somehow when I sit back and think about how truly thankful I am to have you as my father those things barely scratch the surface.             

 You are my tower of strength, you believe in me much more than I believe in myself. You forgive my faults and only encourage my strengths. I love the way you

The weight of a glass.

                         There’s always room for a story that can
                             transport people to another place.”
                                                       ―J.K. Rowling

Let me distract you for a moment and tell you a short story.
This is an old story – maybe familiar.  The people and the circumstances differ slightly for everyone who tells them, but the core lessons remain the same.
I hope the twist I've put on it here inspires you to think differently…
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Once upon a time a psychology professor

THE WESLEYS'

      You would agree with that John Wesley is well known as an evangelist who claimed the world as his parish,  and who rose at four each morning in for his devotional time, but his home was in shambles. Four years after his marriage he wrote to his brother Charles and said "love is rot"
He was a remarkable man and God used him mightily,  yet his marriage was a miserable failure.

THE BATTLE FOR YOUR NAME.

It was Zig Ziglag who said: "if you lose money,  you have lost nothing; if you lose your health, maybe you lose something,  but if you lose your character,  name and integrity, you have lost all". How true!   Remember that your name has already gone to heaven before you! . 

DIY: OKRA LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER DOR NATURAL HAIR.

Why should you use okra? 

It makes the hair soft and easy to comb. Regular use would make your hair healthy and create great curl definition.

 

As a young student I found out that the slimy substance in okra is a good ingredient to use as leave-in conditioner. It is rich in vitamins and minerals.  It ensures shiny hair and top it all, it has a neutral smell. 

I use it when twisting and as a lock gel to create a perfect twist out. 

A natural hair product like this would cost a fortune ,so I create my own magic portion. Read more

A little about the truth

Truth exists..

 Truth is neither good nor bad,ugly nor beautiful. Truth is just what is here and now- it is reality.

Reality isn't the way we wish things to be nor the way we hope them to be, but the way they actually are.

The truth has a million faces,  but there is only one truth.
Nature never deceives us: it is we who deceives ourselves.
If fifty people tell a lie,  it is still a lie.

THE NICE GIRL SYNDROME

              I grew up a people pleaser,  it sank into me from childhood that the thoughts of others and my actions at all times needed a synchronization. Before I made my decisions, I would weigh out how it would affect others and change their thoughts about me. Any decision that faulted was not taken.  

                 I built myself completely around others expectations, from the way I looked, to my friends,  my relationships,  personality and more.  When people would ask me about myself, what I liked,  what pisses me off, I gave out answers carefully but they weren't always the same for everyone, so I had multiple personality. I became an expert at analysing people and situations, so I could figure out the person I needed to be around them to earn their vote of likeness. I had no true self.

            The journey to myself discovery came in early last year,when I got stuck between two opinions that would change my life for for eternity, it was really hard to choose between myself, my life and the people I had always pleased. I spent so much time trying to get everyone to accept me that I never figured out what's best for me.

Surprisingly, I figured out, it's a good thing to drive people away! Yeah you heard that right.
As you "drive people away", you only get closer to your ideal people, those who love you, who want to be close to you,who love you, who truly value you, are one step closer.

                   Being disliked by someone is simply a byproduct of being authentic to who you truly are.